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1. Blaming others
It diseases P and K, the primitive and infantile.
Primitive. Blaming others is the mindset of the primitives. In the interior of Africa, if someone is sick, who thought out is: "Who ya nyantet?" Always "who", not "what" cause. Modern medical field always find out "what" is not "who". So if we think to blame others, it's the same with a primitive attitude. Disposable sheath aja, do not have to wear a tie and jacket.
Childish. Why? Kids always never want to be blamed. If there dishes were falling, "brother tuh wrong", or "Ma'am tuh wrong". You wear bib overalls wrote that to be so. If we are mature, intelligent person and will always look for the cause of something.
2. Blame yourself
Blaming himself that he was not capable. This is different to admit a mistake. You've been there? If you say never, you are lying. "Ah, heck he could, he was an expert, he has position, he was talented, and so on, Experience, this I what?, Wow, I can not deh. She S3, LHA, my junior high school, can not wah deh. He's got plenty of time, I was busy, certainly can not deh ". This disease such as cancer, plus a big, big inside yourself mentally so that it can achieve "improper guilty feeling".
So even if the wrong partner, subordinates, or even superior, dare say, "I'm really were indeed incorrect, inadequate, and so forth". This disease slowly kill us. Feel inferior, we do not have the ability. We often compare the success of others with our shortcomings, so the success of others is considered fair because they have something more that we do not have.
3. Do not have a goal or aspiration
We often glued to the busy work, but the direction is clear. Should we always have the employment targets with milestones. Create a target long-term and short-term in writing. The illustrations like this: There's a dog running an arrogant rooster. "What the hell can not I pursue, just lose the same horse I". Then there are rabbit jumping, kiclik, kiclik, kiclik. His friend said, "Well there tuh rabbit, chase aja". He chased the rabbit, wesss ...., Rabbit run faster, dog and rabbit chasing insistent run plumb-ear (to not hear / care about nothing), and finally not overtaken, rabbits entered fence. A dog returns to his friend and diketawain. "Ah, lu, said candidate run, the same can not chase rabbits wrote. He said most taut lu ". "Lha he goalnya to stay alive anyway, survive, LHA cave goalnya for fun aja". If the "GOAL" we have only to "FUN", the contents of the time wrote, yes the results are just puffing away.
4. Have a "goal", but inconsequential achieve
Usually experienced by people who are not "teachable". Goalnya wrong, our focus is also wrong, way too wrong, too wrong direction. The illustrations like this: there is a young man who is obsessed with gold, because of the influence of tradition who idolize gold. This young man went to shopping and filling his sack with gold and arbitrarily ngeloyor go. Of course, the police arrested and questioned. He replied, "Basically I want the gold, I do not want to look left-right".
5. Taking shortcuts (shortcut)
The success was never passed by the shortcut. Shortcuts do not bring people to a real success, because they do not follow the process. If we avoid the process, do not overcooked, undercooked if yes dikarbit. So, there is no shortcut tuh. Indonesian badminton players get up at 5 in the morning, run around Senayan, smash 1000 times. It's not a shortcut. No one person is inattentive, careless wear gloves every day, continue to suddenly become a champion badminton. Not available! If you are told to put money 1 million, in 3 weeks to 3 million, it makes sense not that? Impossible!. Because it is against nature.
6. Take the road too long, too relaxed
This analogy: Aircraft to be able to take-off, must have a minimum speed. The Boeing 737, to be able to take- off, requiring a minimum speed of 300 km / h. If he was just a speed of 50 km / h, yes Just ngabis-splurging wrote aviation fuel, muter-muter wrote. Experience, that the road is straight runwaynya you just use a speed of 50 km / h, ya can not take-off, even fall yes. Is not it?
7. Ignore the little things
He wants the big, splashy, but the little ones do not dikerjain. He forgot that the structure of a large building, there must be a small component. I wish great aja. Wrote not overlook small things may be, let alone ignore the little people.
8. It's too soon to give up
Do not stop working on a trial period of 3 months. Not start with the one that makes people fail, but stopped in the wrong place. He began with a wrong can be corrected, but stopped in the wrong place very damaging.
9. The shadows of the past
Well, once poetic, I love this one. Because of what? We always full of memory, right? What do we do, go in our memory, minimal as our consideration for our next step. Moreover, if we fail, did not dare to try again. It could return to the number of disease-3. Failure as a result of the shadows of the past are not resolved properly. It was the shadow of negative. Our memory is sometimes very restricted us to move forward. We sometimes forget that life is going. "Time" was developed right ?. There is no way that have clock upside down? Nothing, right? Everything is advanced, life was progressing. Running just ahead, even if it should fall, certainly ahead anyway. People who succeed, must have failed. That negative memory that hinder success.
10. Hypnotize yourself with apparent success
Commonly called Pseudo Success Syndrome. We are hypnotized by it. If we ever managed with little success, then stop, do not go anywhere else. Already satisfied with the small success. Napoleon once said, "the most dangerous moment comes along with a great victory". That's when the most dangerous, because people are careless, drunken victory. Do not get stuck with a goal-goal small results, because we will shoot a large target, goal away. Do not be complacent, later so arrogant, continue arrogant.